Everybody’s birth story is different, but I do think we can learn from each other’s experiences. This is my c-section experience and story of how we got Grey and Sawyer.
When I had Grey, my water broke 2 weeks early, on the day of his baby shower. It was funny because I woke up to get ready for the baby shower and I thought I peed my pants a little. Which was weird but I figured I had to pee all the time and so it was fine. Then, it happened again, so naturally, I called my mom? She was like, “I think your water broke, what does Matt think?” I hadn’t woke him up, so when I did wake him up he didn’t believe me. He reluctantly got up and got ready, helped me pack my bag, and then off to the hospital we went.
At this point, we hadn’t called anyone else to let them know because Matt was sure it was a false alarm. As we’re driving over, no leaking or peeing, so I was starting to think Matt was right. Once we got to the hospital we started walking in and we made it halfway through the parking lot and then RAGING WATERS. I looked down at the puddle and then up at Matt and said, “believe me now?” He definitely did.
We go in and sure enough, so my family had the shower without me. I was sad to miss all of their cute faces but excited to have my baby. We sat in the hospital all day long, we had gotten there around 8 and so obviously I got my epidural and was just waiting for the magic to happen.
Then we waited and waited, by around 4 pm I was dilated to 10 cm. Then they made me put a peanut yoga ball between my legs to open up my hips. Just before my original nurse left, she informed me that there was a chance that I might have a c-section, because when she checked my cervix my pelvis was really tight. I didn’t realize until later how grateful I would be for that information.
I was in this position for 3 hours, then they decided to let me push. I pushed and pushed, it felt like I wasn’t getting anywhere. Around 10 o’clock the doctor informed me that my pelvis was too narrow and that I could pass the baby through the birth canal. They offered the vacuum and forceps but told me it was inevitable that I would need a c-section.
In what seemed like 2 seconds Matt was in scrubs and we were off to have this baby. I was so tired from all day I fell asleep, Matt then comes in and says, “Wow, they already have you cut open!” Which woke me up, then he told me the baby was out and I couldn’t hear him. I told Matt to go check on Grey and make sure he was alive, and then I fell asleep again. I remember next waking up in the room and being handed the cutest little being I had ever seen. The next few weeks were rough, my body was dead, that is another story for another day.
Fast forward almost 3 years, we are pregnant again with our second little boy. I was excited for Grey to have a little brother, a buddy. I was also excited to know the exact day I was going to have my baby! Many people ask me why are you having a c-section and some people act like it’s not the same as a vaginal birth. Like I said at the beginning everybody’s experience is different but they are all great!
The thing that made Sawyer’s birth story differently is the corona. I was so prepared, I had written 8 weeks of sub plans in advance. I was so so prepared, just for it all to get blown to pieces by dang COVID-19. Sawyer was born in early March, and just about a week and a half later, they shut down schools. The online school began, luckily for me, my sub kicks some serious butt! He has taken my sub plans and not only put them on Canvas, but made them better. Sawyer literally has only left the house maybe 6 or 7 times since coming home from the hospital. He’s chunky, he’s a great and calm baby!
My friend also has had all c-sections and she assured me that the second would be better. Here is where everyone’s experience is different. I honestly think my second c-section was worse, maybe because I’m older and more out of shape than my first. My body hates me, even though I am definitely feeling better now. Stay tuned for my tips on healing from c-sections.