Hello Fellow Mothers! Thanks for joining us for the, It’s a mom thing challenge. We will be challenging you every day of the month of March. Hopefully, we all can come out of this month feeling like a Superhero!
Okay friends, we are on challenge week 3 of It’s a Mom Thing! We hope that our tips and challenges are helpful. If you have any ideas we would love to hear them on our Facebook group and for lots of extra tips, reminders, and support throughout all of March.
This week we’ll be talking about Balance. How to balance all things Mom, wife, and self. I think a lot of times we get so caught up in our kids and what they need or want and we forget ourselves or our spouses. We need to learn balance because you can’t be a great mom if you’re not happy or taking care of yourself.
Challenge 13: Prioritize – Decide what’s important to you. Make a list and start most important at the top and work your way down. This will help you manage your time and activities that are less important, if you don’t get to them then, oh well. Let it go!
Challenge 14: Go on a date with your spouse! Like I said before, a lot of the time we worry so much about our kids we forget our spouse. Plan an activity that will help relieve your stress. Be spontaneous! It doesn’t need to be extravagant it could be small and simple. Your husband will love it!
Challenge 15: Pick your battles: decide what you really want to stress about and what you don’t. When I first became a mom I remember thinking things like “I will always do my kids’ hair” and “I will always get myself ready for the day”. That is definitely not my reality now! I worry about us looking good on Fridays (date night) and Sundays. The rest of the week I don’t let it stress me out if my boys wont let me do their hair or if I don’t have time to do my makeup.
Challenge 16: Create a ritual for your kids to get quality time: Sometimes it can be hard to give each kid the attention they need, and it can feel like life is out of balance when you don’t. Create rituals that become habits that allow you to do that. We do this through reading to each kid individually at bedtime, and having an afternoon snack usually out sitting on the porch. It’s not always 100 % great quality time, but because it’s a habit it happens more often than not and I feel like it keeps us together!
Challenge 17: Mom versus Friend: We all want to be the “cool mom” but we have to make sure that we don’t stop parenting to achieve that goal. When your kids are little they think their mom is their whole world and then they hit the tweens! You find yourself having small battles over things that don’t really matter. Take a minute to evaluate your parenting technique and make sure you aren’t getting caught up in the drama. They only have one mom, and tons of friends. You are the only one that cares about every single detail of their lives. Remember that it is normal to push away because they becoming more independent and that’s good!
Challenge 18: Your Identity: Does your identity depend upon your adolescent’s appearance, grades, performance in sports or other accomplishments? Are you invested too heavily in your growing child – in other words, is she the intellectual and emotional center of your life? Has your sense of personal significance been built upon the rock of a deep relationship with your Creator or on the shifting sand of your teenager’s behavior or opinion of you? The answers to these questions will affect your ability to accept and appreciate your child on a day-to-day basis. Knowing that your worth doesn’t hinge on your teenager’s opinion will help you avoid irrational reactions and keep your feet on solid ground.
Challenge 19: Set Expectations: Your kids might act unhappy about the expectations you set for them. They usually will understand and realize that their parents care enough about them to expect certain things such as good grades, acceptable behavior, and the family rules. If you have appropriate expectations, kids will likely try to meet them and feel loved. Without having anything in place, your kids may feel like you don’t care about them. If you don’t have any in place, take 10 minutes to make a list of what is important. If you do have certain expectations, it’s always a good thing to reevaluate.